It is human nature to avoid emotions that scare us. Who wants to walk directly into what promises to be a painful experience?
Getting through fear is a skill that you and I can learn.
The problem is that most of us cling to the fears, because they believe it’s a part of who they are.
If you aren’t ready to face your fears, you probably won’t overcome them.
And there’s nothing wrong in that. Everything happens in its own time.
Let’s have a look at some of my right ways of dealing with fear.
Now we may think fear of death of our loved ones, separations, sickness, exams, being alone, fear failure, fear of not being successful, fear getting rejected and many many more …….
How to start overcoming fear here and now
1.Awareness:-Before you can begin overcoming fear, you have to be aware that your fears are causing damage in your life.
To know your fears keep these small questions in mind:-
i) How I am in it? ii) Why it is in you? iii) From where it is?
Because it’s easy to get so attached to your thoughts and feelings that you think they are all that exist, which couldn’t be further from the truth. You are not your fears. You are the awareness that experiences it.
2.Identify:-Get specific about what exactly you’re afraid of. Pay attention to the pictures you have in your head about the situation.
i) What is happening in them? ii) What are you really scared of?
Become an observer of your inner space. Try to figure it out. It is very important that we recognize them minutely and specifically. If we are able to do we are in a right direction to overcome our fears.
3.Appreciate your courage:-It is very good way to appreciate your own courage during difficult times, say this to yourself:-“Every time I don’t allow fear to keep me from doing something that scares me, I am making myself stronger and less likely to let the next fear attack stop me.” No one will be there to motivate you or appreciate you but you yourself have to do it.
4.The present now:- What are you lacking right now? When you center yourself in the now, you realize that everything is how it is. You naturally accept what is. Touching into the now can be as simple as feeling your body and breath. Being present and knowing what is happening is important.
5.Allow yourself to sit with your fear for 2-3 minutes at a time:- Breathe with it and say, “Its okay. It feels terrible but emotions are like the ocean—the waves ebb and flow.” Have something cherishing planned immediately after your 2-3 minute sitting period is completed: Call the good friend waiting to hear from you; immerse yourself in an activity you know is enjoyable.
6.Gratitude:-Whenever you feel fear, switch it over to what you are grateful for instead. If you’re afraid of public speaking, be grateful for the opportunity to communicate with so many people, your friends, your siblings, your spouse, your collogues in workplaces etc and that they are there to genuinely listen to what you have to say.
7.Write down the things you are grateful for:-Look at the list when you feel you’re in a bad place. Add to the list. You are unique… no one is like you repeated; you are gifted with many talents and gifts write them down and feel grateful about each of them. You will find yourself very talented and your fear is nothing in front of it.
8.The Work:- The Work is one of my favorite ways of dealing with fears, anxieties, and worries. What you like do when you are bored or when nothing to do example :- reading your favorite book, listening music, watching a motivational movie etc.There are many methods available, so pick the one that you resonate with the most.
9.Remind yourself that your anxiety is a storehouse of wisdom:-Write a letter, “Dear Anxiety, I am no longer intimidated by you. What can you teach me?” it’s very fun way but very effective way t overcome fear.
10.Talk:-Talk to a faithful friend , I would say talk to yourself because very often do we hold the negative in because we are afraid of how others might react, or because of some other reason? Talking helps, but avoid drowning in self-pity, and choose the right person to talk to. If you have no one to talk to talk to self or write it down.
11.Read:-Reading a good book on your specific fear can open new doors on how you can get rid of it. I like to read a lot of motivational and inspirational book or stories of overcoming fear.
12.Watch:-Watching a movie or a documentary can be as enlightening as reading a book. Sometimes it’s nice to distract yourself from your fear. And if you really want to, you can find dozens of movies on the fear you’re dealing with. Watch a motivational speaker who enlightens to overcome fear.
13. Positivity.: –Whenever fear strikes, flip it over. Instead of thinking of something bad that can happen, think of something positive. What’s a positive outcome to your fear? If you’re thinking about public speaking, imagine yourself being successful instead of failing horribly. You may feel happy a positive smile may appear on your face.
Conclusion: – your story; We all tell ourselves a story about our fear. If I’m afraid that no one will like my writing , I tell myself a story because I too have fears but I always try to practice many of the above points to overcome and I am happy what I am today.
What’s your story? If you feel free to share PLEASE COMMENT ME so that many of us can be helped through your sharing.